Narcissism in any relationship is an intangible perception that damages the relationship and the people in it. The same is with narcissistic parenting. Passive narcissism is unnoticed for the longest period until the damages are done. The difference between being strict with the child for its betterment and being aggressive with the child because of the parent’s own mental disturbances is highly misunderstood.
Parents who are strict and do not compromise on the actions of their children are often classified to be the efficient ones. On the other hand, parents with narcissistic syndromes within themselves cross their limits of being meticulous towards their children. In this process, they hamper their children’s growth. These damages are repetitive and have severe short-term and long-term effects on the child.
The effects of narcissistic parenting start at an early stage and spread through the rest of the life of the child. Unfortunately, these behaviors are delivered mostly indoors. Also, parents are considered to be the supreme caregivers of their children. Hence, the narcissistic approach of it eminently gets covered. This is miserable for toddlers and young children until they gain an understanding of limits.
Toddlers
This is the poorest section of children who are devastated at an early age by a narcissistic parent. Because they are the ones who are totally dependent on their parents for everything, the distance between them and their parents is the least. This makes them feasible for the parents to outburst their narcissism on the poor children.
The narcissist parent who is internally disturbed due to other reasons in life often is furious with their children. This damages a lot of the mental growth of the child. The first 5 years of a child’s is extremely for its mental growth. The troubled nature of the parent confuses it and disrupts its natural growth. Also, this is the phase of a human’s babbling curiousness. This is when a child sees the world around them, learns behavior, and has too many questions. When not nurtured properly, these innocent ones face massive mental and emotional anguish.
Also, a child at this age requires a lot of attention toward well-being. This includes regular proper feeding, cleaning, and care which are mostly denied by a narcissistic parent. Thus, physical growth hinders.
Such children in due course learn the wrong perspectives of life. They fail to communicate and express themselves. The fear of getting thrashed reduces their ability to expressions.
School goers
This is a time when the child sees a lot of the outer world. And the school becomes their safe home. Of course, this is not the same for all. But primarily the children of narcissistic parents seek shelter in their schools which gives them a good escape for a good number of hours of the day.
However, the impact of narcissistic parenting makes them vulnerable in behavior.
Introvert
Children of narcissistic parenting are mostly found to be vulnerable in nature. They find it difficult to mix up with the normal children of the class. They also struggle to express themselves properly to the teachers. As a result, they are mostly misunderstood. This often leads to getting punished for not being able to behave appropriately.  Unfortunately, these poor kids do not know how to behave properly because they have never seen it at home. Some of them attempt to be calm and quiet in class to avoid interactions.
The trauma of getting beaten at home haunts them all the while. That’s why they are always scared of having their teachers complain about them to their parents.
Shamefaced
Having an abnormal life at home makes the children of narcissistic parenting shamefaced in front of their friends. They try to do everything possible to not reveal what’s wrong in their house. They are afraid of having their friends laugh at them for not having breakfast or not bringing lunch to school. Many adult survivors of narcissistic parenting have reportedly faced the same shame of not bringing lunch to school. They either hide themselves from their friends during the lunch break or cook up different stories to cover this. They choose to struggle on their own and not express to anyone the abuses they are facing in order to escape embarrassment.
Liar
School-going children of narcissistic parents can sometimes be very brave liars. They have a lot to hide.  By this age, they are mostly able to distinguish between the normal life and the abnormal life they are leading. That’s when they have a big task of pretending to have a normal family life like others. They fantasize about how well they are taken care of and narrate it to their friends. They learn to lie about the scar that happened to them because of their parent’s beatings. These brave liars can fake being okay, happy, and even well-fed even when they are broken, sad, and hungry.
Attention-seeker
Young-aged children of narcissistic parents crave their parent’s love. In fact, this is a time of life when every child needs the nourishment of parental love.
Narcissistic parents themselves struggle to lead a normal life. Hence, they fail to love their children adequately. Because of this the children always crave warmth and love and often seek it outside. They can behave inappropriately and silly in front of parental figures in front of them only for that one glance of love and warmth. This is the real struggle for a poor child.  They unknowingly mess up with their own emotions and make fools of themselves in an attempt at shameless attention seeking
Bully
Very unfortunately certain children of narcissistic parents develop a wrong and negative self. In an attempt to hide the painful abuses they are going through at home straighten out to be bullies to the other children around. As a matter of fact, they get punished at school. They are recognized to be notorious and cannot have genuine friends around them.
College-goers
Life moves on living with narcissistic parents. As these children grow and make their way to college they experience another big deal of struggle waiting for them. Interestingly, this is a time when an adult child gets introduced to multiple spheres of life. They get to take on several responsibilities in their lives during this time. But their same old problem of not being able to communicate appropriately invites much trouble for them. This is an age when they are not for given forbear communication errors.
Fortunately some children of abusive parents by this time learn to manage themselves. During the time until now, some get to develop a certain maturity in them. They learn what’s wrong is going with them. At the same time, they create a defense for them. We are now mature enough or on the journey of dealing with narcissistic parents maturely. They may not be in a situation to escape from their narcissistic parents but learn how to avoid them.
Unfortunate are the ones, in fact, the majority of the children of narcissistic parents who yet not are able to figure out what’s wrong with them. They still struggle to communicate properly.
They still have to hide their pains behind fake smiles. They still either crave love from every affectionate person they meet. Some of them still pretend to be bullies and try to hide their torment behind a tough mask.
As a result of holding the pain long enough in them these college-going children of narcissistic parents can become:
Insecure fellows
Children of narcissistic parents when make it to college are mostly found to be insuring about their reality. Their continuous effort to hide their pitiful truth makes them consistently insecure and under-confident among their friends and the faculties.
Awkward and shy in the group
Eventually at this stage the children of narcissist parenting become a typical awkward person who bumps heads with an inferiority complex. By now they are used to hiding and shying away from events to keep away from friendly get-togethers. Also, the lack of financial and emotional support from the parents is a big reason behind search characteristics.
Lack of concentration in studies
The feeling of inadequacy in life invariably disturbs the children of narcissistic parenting. They crash to concentrate on their studies. Even the most brilliant and intelligent ones blunder due to continuous deterioration in performance. The regular nuisance at home plays havoc with their time of homework. Consequently, they lag behind in the class and face difficulty in progressing
Substance abusers
Sadly, a section of children of narcissistic parents fall prey to the trap of substance abuse. This can happen to High School students as well. These children often make friends with the wrong ones or come in contact with drug peddlers. Some may even get engaged in irresponsible sexual activities leading to unfortunate consequences.
Failure to express likings for special someone
Children raised by narcissistic parents always cry out for love. This is an age for them to get attracted to the opposite gender. Since these children have mostly not seen the journey of healthy relationships in their lives, they baffle to make the right move. Muddled and full of an inferiority complex, these fellows mostly fail to express their liking for a special someone.
Failure to maintain a love relationship
Even if the adult children of narcissistic parents enter a love relationship they often fail to maintain it. This primarily happens because of no experience and exposure to witness a successful and healthy relationship. Also, the anger, frustration, and immaturity build up inside them as a result of being raised by narcissistic parents making them toxic for their partners. A certain trait of narcissism crops in them even without them realizing it. This causes multiple relationship breaks up in their life at this stage followed by The Hangover of the heartbreaks.
Office Goers
Narcissistic parenting can have far-reaching consequences on individuals, even as they enter the professional world. This article explores the effects of narcissistic parenting on adults in the workplace and sheds light on the challenges they may face.
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Lack of Self-Confidence:
Growing up with narcissistic parents often leaves adults lacking self-confidence. They may struggle to trust their own abilities and constantly seek external validation. Fear of failure and a reluctance to take risks can hinder their professional growth and hinder their ability to reach their full potential.
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Difficulty with Authority Figures:
Narcissistic parenting can instill a deep-seated mistrust of authority in adults. They may find it challenging to accept feedback and criticism from supervisors, leading to strained relationships. Their resistance to authority may manifest as defiance or a tendency to undermine those in higher positions, creating workplace conflicts.
III. Poor Interpersonal Relationships:
Adults raised by narcissistic parents often face difficulties in building and maintaining healthy relationships in the workplace. They may struggle to empathize with their colleagues’ perspectives, leading to a lack of cooperation and collaboration. Additionally, their tendency to manipulate or exploit others for personal gain can create a toxic work environment.
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Impaired Communication Skills:
Effective communication is crucial in any workplace, but adults who experienced narcissistic parenting may struggle in this area. Their self-centeredness makes it challenging for them to actively listen or consider others’ opinions. They may dominate conversations, disregarding the input of their peers, which can hinder teamwork and hinder productivity.
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Sense of Entitlement:
Adults raised by narcissistic parents often develop a sense of entitlement. They expect special treatment and may disregard rules and boundaries. This entitlement mentality can negatively impact their relationships with coworkers and impede their ability to work collaboratively as part of a team.
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Emotional Instability:
Narcissistic parenting can leave adults emotionally vulnerable, with fragile self-esteem and an increased susceptibility to criticism. They may react defensively or aggressively in stressful situations, leading to disruptions in the workplace and strained interpersonal dynamics. Emotional volatility can also hinder their overall work performance and career progression.
VII. Struggles with Leadership:
Due to their self-centered upbringing, adults with narcissistic parenting backgrounds may struggle with effective leadership. Their focus on personal gains rather than team success can hinder their ability to inspire and guide others. Additionally, their difficulty delegating tasks and trusting the abilities of their team members can limit their effectiveness as leaders.
VIII. Impact on Career Growth:
The effects of narcissistic parenting can impede career growth for individuals in the workplace. Poor interpersonal skills, limited networking abilities, and a damaged reputation can hinder opportunities for advancement. It is essential for individuals to recognize and address these challenges to overcome these obstacles.
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Coping Strategies and Self-Improvement: